Couples Counseling

Attachment-focused healing

Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) is a particular approach to couples counseling that places a strong emphasis on the emotional bond between partners. Rather than solely focusing on surface-level issues, EFT recognizes the profound impact that emotions have on our interpersonal experiences. With this in mind, the therapeutic model strives to guide couples in understanding and navigating the underlying emotions that fuel their interactions. By providing a structured framework, EFT allows couples to delve deep into the patterns and dynamics that may be causing distress in their relationship. This approach empowers couples to identify and express their deeper emotions, creating a safe and compassionate space where vulnerability is valued and encouraged. Through fostering emotional attunement, EFT helps couples to forge a strong partnership and establish a secure base from which they can heal, grow, and thrive. Within the supportive environment facilitated by a skilled therapist, couples embarking on EFT are able to cultivate a stronger emotional connection. By being encouraged to express their true selves and actively listen to one another, couples can enhance their intimacy and develop a newfound appreciation for their shared experiences. Ultimately, EFT offers couples a transformative opportunity to create a more fulfilling and satisfying relationship, enriched by a deepened emotional bond that withstands the test of time.

Benefits of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT)

  • Improved communication between couples: Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) helps couples better understand each other’s emotions and needs, allowing them to communicate more effectively.

  • Increased empathy and understanding: EFT helps couples recognize and empathize with each other’s emotions and needs, leading to better understanding and connection between them.

  • Strengthened relationships: EFT helps couples build stronger, healthier relationships by addressing their underlying issues and resolving conflicts.

  • Improved emotional regulation: EFT helps couples better regulate their emotions, allowing them to handle disagreements and stress more effectively.

  • Increased trust and intimacy: By working together to address issues and resolve conflicts, EFT helps couples build trust and increase intimacy.

 
“Love has an immense ability to help heal the devastating wounds that life sometimes deals us. Love also enhances our sense of connection to the larger world. Loving responsiveness is the foundation of a truly compassionate, civilized society.”
— Sue Johnson
 

questions you may have

  • There is no particular length of therapy. Most of my clients see definite improvement in their relationships by six sessions. Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a short-term method used, with the duration varying depending on the couple's commitment and the techniques used. However, if there's an injury to the relationship, such as an affair or betrayal, or if both partners have a history of trauma, therapy may take longer, sometimes over a year. These estimates are just estimates.

  • Sessions are either 50 minutes or 90 minutes long depending on the clients needs and time availability.

  • An EFT therapist will meet in a private room or Zoom to help couples explore their difficulties and understand their desired relationship. They focus on identifying and changing negative cycles that can be distressing for couples. The therapist may suggest individual sessions to gain a detailed understanding of each partner's history and concerns. EFT therapists are trained to help couples move towards safe, strong, and loving relationships, providing guidance and support throughout the process.

  • Your therapist would work with you to identify the repeating patterns of behavior that cause distress in your relationship and help you develop new ways of communicating and relating to each other. EFT therapists will work with both partners to provide a safe and supportive space where difficult issues can be explored, including affairs. Your EFT therapist would help you to re-discover the feelings that attracted you to one another in the first place and help you to restore a safe and mutually supportive bond between you.

  • There has been a lot of research on EFT and it shows that it is a very effective therapy for couples.A study revealed that over 70% of couples in EFT experienced significant improvement in their relationship, with 90% feeling happier, and these results remained consistent two years after therapy completion.

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